What Actually Helps: 5 Practical Grief Coping Tools from Real People
What Actually Helps: 5 Practical Grief Coping Tools from Real People
Nobody hands you a manual when someone dies.
You're just supposed to figure it out. And most of the advice out there?
It's vague, it's generic, and honestly — it doesn't help.
That's why I love asking our GRIEF Ladies guests to share one practical
coping tool that has actually made a difference in their grief journey.
Not theory. Not platitudes. Just real, actionable steps from real people
who are living it.
5 Guests. 5 Real Coping Tools.
I pulled the actionable steps from five recent episodes and put them
together in one video — because sometimes you just need something
concrete to try.
💛 Featured guests:
- Kelly Myerson (Ep. 22)
- Kat Farace (Ep. 23)
- Charlotte Shuber (Ep. 24)
- Cori Myka (Ep. 25)
- April Hannah (Ep. 26)
Watch it here: https://youtu.be/qpig6OP0Uvk
Your Turn
After you watch, comment on the video. What is one coping tool that has helped you in your grief? Drop it in the comments — your answer
might be exactly what someone else in this community needs today.
And if you want to hear the full story behind each coping tool, the complete episodes are linked below.
🎙️ Full Episodes:
Watch the full episodes:
Link to Ep. 22: https://youtu.be/Oj5HF0xuHhU?si=MU5oBHHuILkhZt6
Link to Ep. 23: https://youtu.be/xRevq_ZcDYo?si=9Pl3DTUQXpJa20Ww
Link to Ep. 24: https://youtu.be/5OEe88S1Sk4?si=ZhPOnLbf6OJr0BXN
Link to Ep. 25: https://youtu.be/aiLqrtJuFI8?si=PuS0JThk4BY43s1m
Link to Ep. 26: https://youtu.be/bTayMPCvKYY?si=gMWPaAyvhobg_VJH
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Loneliness and Grief
Grief and Loneliness
Why Do I Feel So Alone? Why Does No One Understand Me?
We hear this all the time:
“I can be in a room surrounded by friends and family and still feel completely alone.”
After someone dies, many people begin to question:
Does anyone actually understand what I’m going through?
Do people even recognize me anymore?
Why do I feel so different from everyone else?
Why does it feel like the world moved on, and I didn’t?
This kind of loneliness is one of the most painful parts of grief.
Loss changes you. It changes how you see the world. It can shift your priorities, your tolerance for small talk, your patience, your energy. You may find that conversations feel surface-level. You may not have the capacity to pretend you’re okay. You may feel like people expect you to “be back to normal.” That disconnect can create a deep sense of isolation even when you’re not physically alone.
In the early days after a death, support is usually visible. Meals are dropped off. Messages are constant. Cards come in the mail. People check in. But as weeks and months pass, the outside world often quiets down as they go back to their everyday lives and the reality of the loss sinks in for you. Your grief may still feel intense, but fewer people are asking how you’re doing. The lack of support can feel frustrating, confusing and painful.
It can lead to thoughts like:
Maybe I should be further along.
Maybe I’m too much for them. I don’t want to be a burden.
Maybe people are tired of hearing about me talk about him/her.
Most of the time, people aren’t intentionally pulling away. They simply don’t know what to say or how to stay present in someone else’s pain.
You Are Not the Only One Who Feels This Way:
Feeling lonely in grief does not mean you are weak or dramatic. It’s a common experience.
Many grieving people say that the most relieving moment is hearing someone else describe exactly what they’ve been thinking but were afraid to say out loud.
What Can Help With Grief and Loneliness?
You can’t force everyone to understand your grief. But you can:
Seek spaces like the GRIEF Ladies Facebook Community, where grief is openly discussed
Identify one or two people who feel safe to be honest with
Allow yourself to step back from conversations that feel draining
Connect with others who are also living with loss in a grief group
Loneliness in grief is common. It doesn’t mean you are broken. It means you are carrying something significant. And you deserve spaces where your grief is understood.
Evolving: The Journey of Grief and Recovery with Amanda McKoy Flanagan
Evolving with Amanda McKoy Flanagan
In this episode of the GRIEF Ladies podcast, Karyn Arnold and Kelly Daugherty engage with Amanda McKoy Flanagan, a certified intuitive loss and empowerment coach, to explore the complexities of grief and loss.
Amanda shares her personal journey through grief, including the impact of significant losses in her life and how she maintained her sobriety amidst these challenges.
The conversation delves into coping mechanisms, the importance of connection in recovery, and actionable steps for those navigating grief.
Amanda emphasizes the significance of celebrating the lives of loved ones and maintaining connections while also encouraging listeners to practice self-compassion and reach out to others
Listen to it wherever you get your podcasts and on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/jm4jN2JEfdQ?si=utOFdfmNt5rU-Niq